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JunkFunk
02-05-2005, 02:49 AM
This week has been really bad for me.

Last wednesday, my father died. We all knew it was coming, he has been in bad shape for over a year now. Always in and out of the hospital, stuck on a oxygen tank and many other things, it was terrible seeing him like that. But it was still a shock when he died. I was and still am pretty down. All the more reason to seek help from my friends and my girlfriend.

So I thought. My gf has been in ecuador for the last 4 months. She came back four days ago. Yesterday we broke up. I know things like this happen, I'm not really angry about that, we were having problems anyway. What bugs the shit out of me is the fact that since she came back, she never once asked me how I was doing. How the ceremony was. What else is planned. Nothing. Since she came back, no hug, no real kiss, nothing. On the night she came back, she wanted to go dancing with her friends.

Yesterday, we talked about it. I told her what I thought about the situation, I already knew it was over and was expecting some stupid exuse why she basically left me alone. But what she said still surprised me. She said she stayed away from me because she thought thats what I wanted. She said that I'm the type of guy who keeps his feelings to himself, that I didnt want to talk about it. Now I admit, I'm not the type of guy who openly shows his feelings. Usually, I keep my anger and sorrow deep inside me. Usually. But for fucks sake, my FATHER died. I need attention, I need someone to talk to. And if not my gf, then who? Even if it was over, we have been together for almost three years. She could have at least given me a tight hug, talked to me about whatever. The fact that she didnt, that she would use such a stupid excuse, I'm sorry, that just pisses me off.

Tonight I'm meeting some friends in town, and goddamnit I'm getting drunk. I think I'm really going to enjoy that.

Sorry for bugging you guys with this, I just needed to get this out of my system.

icarus
02-05-2005, 04:48 AM
Sorry to hear about your father. You try to have fun tonight, don't let it all get to you. You'll be allright, be strong..... Cu around

Arcus28
02-05-2005, 04:55 AM
Wow thats Shit :( My Condolences. I don“t really know any words to make you feel better or how you come better along with your GF.

But take your time to reflect it and better talk about it with your friends than gettin drunk. But you knew that anyway allready. That will probably help.

Bulldog
02-05-2005, 08:44 AM
Condolences on the loss of your father.. It is a hard thing to have to bear, but something we all go through. My best wishes for you and your family.. Now as you said you were going out to tie one one.. Have the first one in honour of your dad

As for the ex, seems like you are far better off without her.. Have fun and make it home safe...

Ashdrgn
02-05-2005, 09:21 AM
Truely, prayers for you father....I'm sorry you have to be submitted to both you father's passing and you GF leaving you at the same time. As Bulldog said, you might be better without this chick, though you probably don't want to hear that. Be safe and have fun...

nikicheerleader
02-05-2005, 11:27 AM
....my condolences on your dad....i DO know what youre going through...it happened with my mom....all the pain will pass...about your gf, if shes that unfeeling and unable to read you after three years, SHES the loser....NOT YOU....

patriots
02-05-2005, 12:06 PM
sorry bout your dad man...don't know what else to say other than hope you feel better

JunkFunk
02-05-2005, 12:54 PM
about your gf, if shes that unfeeling and unable to read you after three years,

Thats the part that really pisses me off. Thought I didnt want help, what a load of bullshit.

Fuck it, I can hardly wait to down some teq and check out the girls in town. Have not done that in years (without feeling guilty, that is). Where should I go? The nicely lit bar where I know 80% of the people there and has many nice cute girls? Or the dark, smelly disco where the girls are so eee'd up they dont care who's pulling on their panties? Should I even be askin this question?

Bulldog
02-05-2005, 02:29 PM
Something wrong with both? *grin*

KewlTalon
02-05-2005, 02:34 PM
I know there is nothing I can say to make you feel better, Junk, but I am truely sorry for your loss. Losing someone so important in our lives like a parent is devasting. I can understand where you are coming from, to some degree. My best friend was involved in a house moving accident, He and his father were in the business together and a modular house they were moving split in half and hit them both. My friend was lucky and knocked out but his father was crushed by the falling house. The house was on the trailor and split in two halfs. My friend came to, only to see his father trapped under a house. I cannot imagine what he must still be going through. It has been a little over a year. But as his friend what pisses me off is that his so called girlfriend, was so engrossed in herself that she accused him of being insensitive to her needs on the day of the funeral cause he wouldn't take her to the accident site. WTF!!! I mean come on!!!!! She then proceeded to tell us how she wanted to break up with him but wanted advice on how to do it!!!! Fuck the focus should be my friend not the gf!!!! Gets me sooooo pissed off to this day.
Junk, I truely believe you are better off without her. I am sorry to say this. You deserve better. To me, what she said an easy way out. She didn't want to put the time and effort into your relationship. I wish you the best in the next few weeks.

A good friend of mine in college told me this when I went through a break up.... "Girlfriends come and go but your friends are always there!!!!!!! Lean on them, use them, that is what they are for, that is why they are your friends."

ps and a good shot whiskey.

televize
02-05-2005, 06:18 PM
sorry to hear that junk, about your gf, heck she should know you better after 3 years, she just could have asked you if you needed someone to talk to

JunkFunk
02-06-2005, 05:20 AM
Update:
Met a really nice girl yesterday (again), we already know eachother for a while, we were neighbors once. Not really sure if anything is going, but I'd be willing to kill for the slightest chance.

Pvt. Pyle
02-06-2005, 11:49 AM
Sorry to hear about your father. Just try to have fun and cope with the situation the best way you can.